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The Power of Written Words on Day 3,479

I thought for a moment that this article belongs on another of my blogs, but then I realized how it fits here as well. This is a bit different from my typical marketing article. It is a piece that I posted on Facebook in November of 2008 addressing the power of written words. It is not specifically marketing oriented, but it does involve something that bloggers and marketers deal with, which is that of having the right words, and the importance of written words. In this case, it addresses the power of a love letter, but it has a good message that can be applied to many other relationships in your life.

I will note that today is number 3,479. It is also my eighth wedding anniversary, which gives me even more reason to honor the day with something meaningful. This story is about day 2,912. I hope that you will enjoy this inspiration. Here you go:

How Do You Remember Day Number 2,912?

As I witness friends with troubles in their marriages, I am reminded of many whom have come to me or to my wife for advice and counseling. I got to thinking about why we are so popular in this area, but it should be no surprise. We have a great marriage. We communicate our feelings, and let down our pride when it is necessary. We show our love every day, and we do not take the other for granted.

We always try to help our friends when they come to us with marital struggles, and sometimes we are really helpful, but I thought a proactive approach would be even better.

I guess I am trying to lead by example, in hopes that others may start to think of their relationships, and how they can be even better. I wish to inspire others to share their love with their spouses and loved ones, and never wait for a better time.

Put it in writing. It is far too easy to let another day slip by without putting it in writing. Our days together come and go, and the opportunities to put feelings into words diminish with each moment, and with each heartbeat.

The written word cannot be taken away. When you put it in writing, it is a promise … a contract of how you were feeling at the moment it was written. There is no substitute for the written word. We say “I love you” so much that the meaning is often not taken. A love letter is timeless, and it may be just what you need.

It does not have to be complicated. Hiring a pilot to write it in the sky does not show that you care more, and the big gestures like that are often far less frequent than what he or she deserves. Just a quick compliment or something romantic on a Post-It Note can do the trick, if you do it with feeling. It is even better if you do it often.

Let it get your heart pumping. Let it get your tears flowing. Don’t be ashamed to feel, and never be afraid that it will not be taken right. Just the act of thinking about them and putting it in writing can be great for both of you.

There is not a perfect love letter. If I ever thought there was a perfect love letter, I would just make copies and give it to my wife each day. Keep practicing. You will get better at it, and you will love the way it makes you and the special recipient feel.

Say it with meaning, and be very personal. Don’t re-write it a bunch of times to get it just right. Write it, deliver it, and repeat. Here is a quick and simple example:

Dearest Peggy,

I am writing this to you today as a profession of my love. Today is not an anniversary, or a date that would immediately spark a memory. Today is another date in the calendar of our marriage that may one day be just a blur along with the other 2,912 days we have spent together. Today represents another thread in the tapestry that makes up our lifetime together.

Why should I choose to write this today? It is because I love you. I love you every day. I love you with all my heart. Day number 2,913 may not be our greatest. Our days are numbered, and we may not yet know how truly meaningful day number 2,912 is to us.

On day number 2,912 I am reminded of day 556. Day 556 was the day I promised to love, honor, and keep you for all the days of my life. I am reminded of our great pride 2,210 days ago when our son was born, and two days later when we brought him home and wondered “what do we do with him now?” Then just 223 days later, we were wondering how to postpone his walking just a little longer, because “they just aren’t supposed to do that yet”. I am reminded of day 1580 when we rushed to the delivery of our baby girl, and how you were so strong as you pushed through the labor, and how pleased you looked when I introduced you to her for the first time. It is hard to believe that was 1,332 days ago, or that it was 55 days ago when we heard our new baby’s heartbeat and that we will do it all again in the vicinity of day 3,062.

I am reminded of these days, along with the many days of sadness for the death of loved ones, successes and failures, good times and bad times. Best of all, I remember those little moments in between. I remember days at the park, holding hands, stomping around in puddles, cooking a great meal, cuddling on the couch. I remember knowing that you were there each of these 2,912 days, receiving my love with an open heart.

Today is a great day to love you. I look forward with great joy to spending day number 2,913 with you.

All my love,

Mark Aaron

This was a while back, and now we have another member in the family, Jack Walden Murnahan. Things have changed, but one thing that does not change is the power of written words. Use them, practice them, and never forget their importance!

The Business of Money, Marriage, and Marketing

Money is a huge topic for businesses and marriage alike, and they are each influenced greatly by psychology. The psychology surrounding money is so profound that many of us lose all sight of why we do the things we do … and why others do the things they do. Losing sight of the power and myths of money will often create a huge confusion and misrepresentation for people in their marketing efforts. Yes, I am tying money, marriage, and marketing all together, and I will not get to the point in only a couple paragraphs, but upbringing and psychology really do have a place here in marketing. Here are just a couple thoughts for your day, and I hope you can find ways to use this.

I could write all day on the topic of people’s psychology surrounding money. Perhaps this is because I have been in business for a while … over 20 years. In that time, I have controlled squillions of dollars. I have seen how even the topic of money makes people squirm. Sales representatives may love to show their product, but when it comes time to ask for the money, it is the scary and uncomfortable moment of “yes” or “no”. Money is a top cause of divorce, and yet, seldom the top cause of happiness. I can say these things about money and back them with statistics, and I can say them from experience, because I demystified it by making a ton of money. I have earned money at rates that would make some countries jealous. I have also lost money at rates that would make most people leave a pucker mark in their seat. I know both sides of the money deal. I also know that overcoming money and doing great things for great purposes and putting the fears away can create even more joy, inspiration, and success than chasing the dollar. I even wrote a great (of course I say “great”) book about creating joy and inspiration. No, I didn’t write it for the money, either.

Basics of Money and Psychology

So, let’s look at the basics first: A business needs money to survive. They use their money to create more money. Of course, without money, a business cannot survive. Tragically, when left to their own devices, many businesses will focus more on what they sell, and forget to properly address this one essential fact: Every decision about money is made by a person. Even decisions coming from the most brilliant boardrooms and teams of financial experts still come down to people. They make decisions the best they can based on information, and some of the most important information comes from their experience. This means that their psychology plays an enormous role in whether they decide to do business with you or not. Regardless of the job role, whether it is as a spouse, executive, or etcetera, they rely on their decisions to please themselves and / or others around them. Making the wrong decision of buying from your company could come in the way of the things they seek. Are you surprised? Probably not, but how much do you consider this in your marketing?

The topic of psychology of money came to mind while I was on the phone with my wife as she was driving home from taking our kids to her parents home for a visit. Our kids will spend about a week with their grandparents, as they do each summer. They will catch toads, get muddy, and ride horses. We will miss them very much, but it is a great adventure for them.

We got to talking about the years we have spent together and the ways our upbringing still influences our companies. We will soon celebrate our eighth wedding anniversary, and we have spent nearly every day of the last ten years together, working, playing, and raising our family. We talked about the way her parents once really doubted our decisions and our ways of being self-employed and owning multiple companies. When we merged two of our companies back in 2001, I recall her parents liking me and hating me at the same time. We spent every dollar we had to build a business and create something big for our future. Her parents have always worked for companies and had a great sense of security from that. They raised their daughter (my wife) to think that way, too. They often did not understand our ways of sacrificing today for tomorrow, and the struggles it would require. I understand how a parent thinks. I have three kids. I want good things for them and I want them to always be secure.

It made me think of two dramatically different psychological approaches to money. There are the kind like them, who feel more secure with other people’s decisions about money. The company will handle all of the money, and they will give the employees their cut, in the form of a paycheck. Then, there is the kind who run the companies, make hard decisions about money for other people, and have what some would consider a risk taker mentality. I was raised by entrepreneurs who never understood the idea of having a job. It rubbed off, and I think working for somebody as an employee would be about the scariest thing. Actually relying on the mood or means of a boss to feed my family spooks the heck out of me. It seems to me that either approach has its risks. Either has its long term and short term advantages and disadvantages. I think most people live their lives in a safe space somewhere between my wife’s parents and my parents. They find a comfort zone that keeps them feeling good.

I say to heck with the comfort zone … you will never experience “spectacular” being comfortable. Your sofa is comfortable, too, but seldom very productive. That is just me … and yes, it gives me that crazy little edge you may have picked up on.

Companies have had a lot of shake-ups in the last couple years. People are doing jobs they never expected to do. Many have entered business ownership against their will or their plans. Markets have changed, and jobs are scary … self-employed or otherwise. Many people react with more caution than ever, and it is hard to call them “wrong” for this. Much of the reaction in a marketplace comes from psychology, and when it involves money, there is sure to be a look-back into their upbringing and the things which made them who they are.

Be careful how you address these matters of money and psychology. You may have to justify your cost more than ever. You may have to develop a more meaningful call to action and a better value proposition. It will make your company stronger and better than ever. It will probably cost money, too. Don’t fight it when it is for your benefit.

Smart Slate, Smart Airliner, and Other Interactive Slates

You may be surprised what the Smart Slate WS200, the Smart Airliner wireless slate, and other interactive slates have in common. I will tell you a bit about these products, but what they share in common is more than you will likely see on the surface. First, I want to tell you about a couple of really useful technology tools that you may see more of in the future.

Smart Slate WS200 and Smart Airliner are each teaching tools by Smart Technologies which allow a teacher to work interactively with a classroom using a Smart Board interactive whiteboard. The Smart Board was introduced in 1991, but this product and other similar types of tools are still building steam as groups seek ways to work more interactively.

This is really neat technology that we did not have when I was a kid. The school can provide students with a wireless slate that allows students and teachers to interactively share things on a whiteboard at the front of the class. Smart Slate and Smart Board interactive whiteboards are designed to increase classroom productivity and allow for better interactive sharing of ideas and solutions.

Think of the possibilities for the Smart Slate. They can be used in boardrooms, think tanks, classrooms, and other places where simplified idea sharing and extra productivity are needed. We each have a limited amount of time, and tools that help to make our time in a group more productive are very worthwhile.

Commonalities of Smart Slate WS200 and Smart Airliner Wireless Slates

I said I would tell you what these things have in common, other than the obvious similarities of manufacturer (Smart Technologies), and their potential productivity enhancements. So here it is, the unseen commonality of these items is that each of them perform better with good SEO.

Come on, you should have seen that coming. This is an Internet marketing blog with a focus on search engine optimization and social media marketing. It was a natural conclusion, but why did I decide to blog about it? I will give you two reasons.

First Reason to Blog About Smart Technologies Interactive Smart Slates: I think the products are cool. They are not paying me, and I do not have any new or refurbished Smart Board whiteboards, Smart Slate WS200, or Smart Airliners to sell or rent. If my kids’ school PTO has a fundraiser to buy whiteboards, I may hit you up to buy some cookies or come to a school bake sale, but other than that, keep your wallet in your pocket … I am not selling you anything.

Second Reason to Blog About Smart Technologies Interactive Smart Slates: OK, I listed it as the second, but it ranks right up there somewhere above second. I realized that this is one of the many products offered by a company I will meet with in a few hours. As I started drilling into their offerings, I saw that this is one that I like, and one which is dreadfully under-represented in search results. The question this begs is not of whether this product line is good or not, but rather why in the name of everything good and wholesome did nobody really take this market seriously enough to get these in every classroom?

How Does Smart Slate Relate to SEO?

This is not so unlike things I have exclaimed in recent articles like “Topeka Kansas Car Dealer Social Media Case Study” which now has hundreds of readers searching for “car dealer social media”. It has a hint of what I said about “Cigar Prices Rising With Bad SEO and Social Media Marketing” which has caused cigar dealers to ring my phone off the hook wanting to know how I can market them better. It also has a good whiff of the article I wrote about Ethicon surgical sutures titled “Ethicon Sutures: Endo Surgical Sutures“.

Why did I need another one of these articles to show people that a good search engine optimizer with a boot full of piss standing in a puddle of vinegar can outrank a whole industry in search engines? Well, I suppose that it is because I have a boot full of piss and a puddle of vinegar all around me. I was full of these things, until I leaked. Sometimes I just want to scream at the top of my lungs when I find that somebody does not grasp the value of being able to type out an article and watch it start attracting search visitors within 5-10 minutes after clicking publish. What happens if a company did this often? Wouldn’t it seem that if they could top search engines for just five to ten search terms per day by providing relevant and useful information that it would eventually add up to something really big? Yes, I think so, too. That is why I will walk into a meeting in a few hours and be able to say “this is why you need SEO” and hope that the company CEO will trust that what I tell (and show) him are valuable.

Building Trust Comes First in Business, But How?

I was recently referred to a businessman by a few mutually trusted acquaintances. In total, three different people have come to me suggesting that I could help this man to grow his business. Each of these three people are involved in his personal and professional life in different ways, and each carries a different level of trust. It all got me to thinking a lot about the importance of trust, and what a role it has in business relationships, personal relationships, and how they overlap.

I thought of the trust others had placed in my work and my integrity, and I thought about ways trust is conveyed to others. How to build trust is a tricky topic, at best. There are many factors involved, and it is different to each person. I do not have all the specific answers for this, but here are a few things that came to mind for me. I hope you will enjoy the food for thought.

The First Step to Selling is Trust

The way this really came to me was when the man I was referred to set aside time to meet with me. We will be meeting for the first time tomorrow morning. I asked him how much time we could set aside to visit, because I am often long winded and wanted to know what to expect. I told him that I am not a “pitch man” and that an “elevator presentation” really does not give justice to the work I do. Ironically, a lot of my job has to do with building trust, but I do that online, through branding and delivery of consistent value. In this case, I don’t have a lot of time.

He is a bit cramped for time, so I thought of ways I could present the most important facts right upfront. I considered the specific facts, figures, and projections I could make for marketing his business better. I thought of the “silver bullet” to how I can bring him success with his online marketing. I guess I could just give him the facts, and maybe he would trust those facts … real facts, real numbers, real proof. You can see why I am not a pitch man, right? Yes, I agree … I am not a salesman. He has probably heard all of that before, or if he did the right research, he could certainly ascertain facts, figures, and proof of the things I would tell him.

Once I got to thinking a little deeper about what this man really wants to hear and believe is me. If I do not have his trust, nothing I say will matter … even the best information will be pointless. I could prove how much I know about the Internet, and how I create great visibility to a company. I could show him big profit gains by having a better marketing message. I have that proof on my side, but if I relied on proof alone, it will just fly right on by and at the end of the meeting, we will have both wasted our time. So the challenge is really in how to earn just enough of his trust that he will want to know more … and believe it once I do give him the facts.

Building Trust in an Distrusting World

I started thinking about factors of building trust online. We only have seconds to earn that little bit of trust that makes people want to know more … and believe in us. If we get just a tiny piece of their trust … enough to want to know more, we may get somewhere. Otherwise, we are shot down and we have nothing to show for it. On the Internet, that generally comes with a nice professional looking website, but why? If somebody sees a great website, it is less likely that they wasted their time and money just to throw it all away by trying to rip you off. It conveys some sense of authority.

When I considered this in the offline world, it didn’t really translate so well. Sure, we know that the numbers prove that good looking people earn more money. That is true, but being good looking does not break the trust barrier. There has to be more!

Rapport: Finding Common Threads

I thought of things I know about this man. I guess we could talk about cigars. He likes cigars, too. People like people with common interests. Maybe we could talk about my auto racing … everybody likes fast cars, right? Here is in-car video of me qualifying 7th of 77 at Road America with a top speed of around 170 miles per hour … who wouldn’t like that?! No, this is going nowhere. Rapport, or finding common threads is fine. It can make somebody feel a little more comfortable, but it still does not fill the trust gap. What is the answer? I really want to know.

Honesty and Sincerity: If You Mean it They Can Tell

This is something I guess I have always really tried hard to do. I mean, if you could see the look on my face, you would really know that I mean what I say. I have always been one of those guys who will tell people my sincere thoughts over and above telling them just what they want to hear. I am simply not a schmoozer, and I have always felt like my sincerity and willingness to polarize an audience with what I really think and feel has been an asset to me. Being honest even when it is hard is something I think my father spanked into me at a very young age, and I have been very successful as a result of honesty. It has also caused a few hardships, but it is overall my greatest gift. Some people have a good gauge for honesty, but some do not, so it still does not fill the trust gap. What’s next? There has to be something … some good answer that will make the big difference in trust.

Time and Familiarity Builds Trust … You Trust Grandma, Right?

Maybe grandma is not a perfect example for you, but in general, time and familiarity builds trust. I trust my grandmother implicitly. Over time, people observe others actions and intentions, and with experience, they learn whether they can trust somebody. Time and familiarity are huge factors in trust, but in business, we often only have a moment. Busy business people often do not have time to build trust, either from the buyers’ perspective, or the sellers’ perspective. I have put off sales representatives for over a year before. In fact, one of my largest suppliers took over a year to earn my trust, but I have been a large client to them for over eight years now. Today, that is unlikely to happen, because postponing good business decisions during a recession can sink a company fast. Besides, how many companies will really take the initiative to build trust with you the way this sales rep who called me once a week for a year did?

Referrals Convey Trust

I have written about the value of referrals, and how they can help a business. They shorten the trust gap, because when somebody you trust vouches for somebody else, some of the trust is conveyed. In my case, it seems that about every time I give a business referral, I get a call from the person I referred to say thank you. I guess it happens for two reasons. I am selective, and before I will refer somebody to another business acquaintance or friend, I want to know that they are a good match. When I give a referral, I will convey a huge lot of my influence to be sure that the two parties (referral and referred) will do business together. I almost find myself a bit offended if I give a whole-heartedly earnest referral to somebody and they go elsewhere. It is because I gave a huge piece of my trust, and when my trust is wasted, I don’t like it. I don’t like it one bit.

I have a large collection of reference letters and kind words people have written about me over the years. I could give him a nice leather bound copy of reference letters to show I am trustworthy, but even that is not a perfect answer. There is still more to it than just this … a lot more.

What About the Jaded?

I told my wife I was thinking about and writing about trust. I asked her if she trusts me. I already knew the answer. She clearly trusts me like none other. She trusts me as a husband, father, and provider. Then I asked her how to build trust, and she said “it depends on how jaded the person is.” That makes sense, and it reminded me of something I wrote in one of my books, “Living in the Storm” in the chapter titled “Wins and Losses of Cynicism”. Perhaps we just can’t reach everybody, and some people will just distrust everything. It has to do with the individual’s experiences, and sometimes their own trustworthiness and intentions. It is a lot harder to trust somebody if you have been jaded, or do not feel trustworthy.

A Summary of Trust

I cannot tell you in a single blog article what it takes to build trust. I know, that would be great if I could. One thing I can tell you is that in my job as an Internet marketing consultant, if you are not doing things to convey trust among your marketplace, you are not looking far enough ahead. Trust is a key factor in doing business, online or offline, and the sooner you start, the better.

Building familiarity and authority within your marketplace is never a simple task, but if you never begin the process, you will not receive the benefits. Online social networking is a good start.

I did not come up with all the answers for my meeting tomorrow, but I know that his confidence and trust in me will play a vital role. I hope that my knowledge, history, integrity, and the trust conveyed by others will help.

What do you think? I would enjoy hearing your thoughts on trust. If you are a subscriber to my blog, why did you trust my opinions enough to subscribe? If you are a regular visitor, why do you come back? Does trust play a role in that? My guess is yes.

If Your Blog Was a Sales Rep, Who Would it Be?

When the world spoke to you and said “You should have a blog”, you listened. Well, at least hundreds of millions did. Others may take a while to catch on and understand the many good reasons to blog. Overall, blogging has caught on extremely well in the past few years. Companies understand that a good blog with things people want provides a means to reach more potential customers than any other method. It can create a lot of additional sales. In fact, it can create a lot more sales than any sales representative you’ve got … even the very best of them. It can also make closing the sale a lot easier for the whole company, and greatly reduce marketing overhead. The potential customer has already done the research about what you offer, and if they contact you, they are already mostly sold.

This all begs the question of how your blog will come across to those potential customers. If you look at your blog like it is a sales representative, would it be the sleazy representative you hired and later regret the decision; the representative who makes people’s eyelids heavy and need a nap; or the sharp and clever representative who makes up your top percentile of volume producers? This really all depends on the person or people behind the blog. If you stop looking at it like a “thing” and start looking at it like your top sales representative, it can make a big difference.

Make no mistake! Blogging can create massive exposure to a company, and drive huge success, but it can also fail miserably without a great plan, clever branding, and fantastic content. If you look at it with the potential of becoming your top sales representative, it takes on a whole new feel, doesn’t it? Shouldn’t the people behind the blog have the skills of a master, and not just anybody you can find to produce it for the lowest cost? Really, this is your business front … shouldn’t you take that pretty seriously?

You should have a plan, and I mean a serious strategy to get what you want. What does this mean for you? For me, it means constantly trying to help people with great ideas, branding myself with a touch of snarky humor, and producing enough fantastic content that some of you will say “this guy really knows his stuff and I’ll bet he could help me sell a lot more if I pay him.”

That is my example … but what about you? Here are some questions to ask about whomever you will trust with your online business front. If it is you, these questions become even more challenging, and you should try to be very honest with yourself.

Do you know what readers want?
Do you understand the technology, psychology, mathematics, and creativity necessary to get what you want?
Can you produce the brilliant content it takes to stand out among thousands of worldwide competitors?
Are you able to amass enough readers that you can mathematically predict how many will become customers?
Do you understand the numbers and use them to optimally further your growth?
Can you defend your company’s position against naysayers?
Is online marketing your real job, or it is just another thing you feel you have to do?
Could somebody else do it better, and if so, will they work for you or for your competition?

The list can go on, but this should be enough to think about for now. Take inventory of these things and consider how you stack up. Is the best sales representative on the job?

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Blogs Are Not Created Equal

All blogs are not created equal, and they are as different as the people behind them. Some will create amazing success, and some will be miserable failures. Remembering this and recognizing the marketing talent and creativity of the people behind the blog as the reason for success is important. It can save you a whole lot of time and money to do it right, and not just do it like everybody else.